On Boys, Bravery and the No Buss Zone

by Cate on July 21, 2011

So Serious
It all started innocently enough.  We pulled into the parking lot on Saturday afternoon to get Madeline’s hair cut.  We’re almost through that hideous growing-bangs-out phase, but it was looking a little scraggly and rather than go for the ragamuffin look, it needed some cleaning up.  As I was parking the car, Nick said “I want a mohawk!”

You do?

“Yes, I think so.  Well, I don’t know.”

I think it would be fun for the summer, but it’s up to you.

By the look on his face, it was clear he was torn.  He really wanted it but was afraid to make that leap.

Oh that face just makes me love her that much more.

As Madeline’s hair cut was underway, I told him if he got it done and I had enough hair to donate to Locks of Love, I would get mine lopped off too.

The hairstylist started paying closer attention.

“How much do I need to donate?”

Nine inches.

I didn’t think I had enough.  I thought I was close, and although I have gone back and forth on the do-I-or-don’t-I decision for years, if I was going to go for it, I wanted to make sure that much of a cut could make some difference to someone else.  I mean, to be that close and be a half-inch shy didn’t seem to make much sense to me.

The ruler came out.  There was enough to cut and donate without leaving me, well, looking like Nick.

I looked at him.  What do you think?

He nodded.

The stylist looked at me.  “Are you sure, Mom?”

I nodded.  Yes.  Quick, before I change my mind.

I didn’t want to force Nick into getting the mohawk.  That was purely his decision, and I knew he really wanted it.  I wanted to, instead, show him that we need to just leap sometimes.  And the best way to do that is by example, of course.

And so we leapt together.

Nick’s Before:

Nick’s After:

He could not be happier with it. He spends time every morning, spraying, gelling, getting it just so. It totally suits him.

Madeline’s After:

Last night, I hired a babysitter for Madeline so Nick and I could go out together. I think one-on-one time with each of the kids is huge. For them. For me. And even though it takes a bit of effort to make it happen, we’re all better for it.

I’m looking forward to our date tonight, I told Nick late yesterday afternoon.

“With who?” he asked.

With you, silly.

“Mom! It’s not a date! It’s just you and me.”

Oh it totally is. I can have a date with my kid. You’re somebody special to me and I love you.

“Whatever. But no…”

No, no kissing. Well maybe on the cheek.

Mystic stopped by for a few minutes after work, and before my date. I left the kids downstairs with him and went up to get changed. Quickly painted my nails (OPI’s A Good Mandarin is Hard to Find, favorite summer color ever). Curled my hair.
Summer Colors

When I came downstairs, I caught the cutest sight ever.
Date Night Preparations
Mystic helping Nick get ready for his “date.” He does Nick’s mohawk very patiently, twisting and turning one spike at a time. My heart swelled at that moment.

Nick has been asking to go to my favorite movie theater, so last night was the night.
Favorite Theater
We saw Kevin James’ Zookeeper. So funny. Many laugh-out-loud moments, even for the adults.

About a half-hour into the movie, Nick asked me if it was almost over.

Why? Do you have somewhere to be?

“No, but it’s so good, I don’t want it to be over yet.”

No date is complete without dessert. Just ask Mystic.

Date Night
And, of course, the obligatory picture to commemorate the evening.

The day before yesterday, I was finishing up some work and Nick came and threw his arms around me.

“I love my life and it’s all because of you.”

I couldn’t agree more.

July 21, 2011 – Bonus Photo
Heat Wave - Oh Joy
If you are amongst the two-third’s of the US in this heat wave with us, I feel ya. I hear next week will be a bit better. One can only hope.

Food bloggers … who of you are going to TECHMunch this weekend in Boston? Joanne, Patsy and I are roadtripping it up there on Saturday, and I hear a rumor on good authority that Maris might meet us. Will YOU be there?

I’ll be back tomorrow for a bonus Friday post. Until then …

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Soplato July 21, 2011 at 8:31 pm

I love Nicks new hair, it totally fits his personality. So cute!

Mystic certainly sounds like a keeper. Have to love a man who is good with kids!


Betsy July 21, 2011 at 9:29 pm

When your DS says this…. “I love my life and it’s all because of you.” You should be incredibly proud of how you carry yourself, how you “run” your family. Maybe write that quote down to take a peak at on those hectic, frustrating days.

Great job. Love the date night idea.



Sarah Caron July 21, 2011 at 10:09 pm

Great story. Learning to leap can be so hard. I struggle with it myself sometimes still. And a photo of Mystic? Awesome.


mandy July 21, 2011 at 10:31 pm

I love that you and Nick took the leap together.

Also, he’s totally rocking that mohawk.


Mandi July 22, 2011 at 3:06 am

Gorgeous – both the pics and the story of your date. I have dates with my kids too and we all look forward to them :)


Joanne July 22, 2011 at 6:07 am

This is a real tearjerker of a story. I love Nick and I’ve never even met him!

And the hair looks super cute. (Yours and his and Madeline’s.) I approve.

Is Maris really meeting us there?!?!? Is she staying with us??


Patsy July 22, 2011 at 10:36 am

First off… I love your new ‘do! You look fabulous! How fun that Nick took the leap and tried something new, it helps that you showed him how easy it is to do that. :)

Looking forward to our road trip! I didn’t know Maris was considering making the trip out as well! Fantastic!


Ramona July 22, 2011 at 11:58 am

Ya’ll all look cute.

So Mystic is starting to not be so mysterious!


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