Bullying is a hot button of a topic these days. It’s so much more than what it was years ago when we were in school. And it’s become much worse because of the many different avenues that children can bully or be bullied. While the advancement of technology is generally hailed as a good thing, it also bring about more ways to spread negativity.
Years ago, kids would settle their disagreements outside on the playground after school. Or torment each other in the school hallways. Shove kids into lockers. Steal their lunch.
But after school, aside from random prank calls, it was done. A brief respite until the next school day.
One hopes.
But these days, with Instagram and Facebook and Vine and ask.fm and all the other ways kids can connect with other kids … well, there is no escaping it.
And it’s unfortunate that it’s a problem that has become so out of hand that there is an entire month dedicated to bullying awareness (October).
And all moms want to do is protect our kids. And keep them little.
So we have many conversations about it. How to treat people. How to respond if someone isn’t treating you or your friends properly. How and when things need to be escalated.
I am a huge proponent on giving kids the space they need to try and work problems out amongst themselves. They need to tools and opportunity to do this so they can function in the world on their own … for those times when I can’t swoop in and save the day. Sometimes kids are able to work it out amongst themselves and move on. Sometimes parents have to intervene.
But it’s always a topic we talk about. Open door policy and all. I want it to be clear that I am here for my kids, and their friends, however needed. It’s a sobering topic, and something that, as a parent, you have to carefully balance on that line between being fully involved in your child’s life and yet not being a helicopter parent. The line between letting them work things out on their own, and knowing when to step in.
A delicate balancing act and certainly a topic that we need to be all over. It’s one of those topics that you wish you didn’t have to talk about, but you have to.
The Dugi Group Publishers sent me two new children’s books to check out on this very topic, Don’t Judge a Lizard By Its Scales and Wizard Lizard Rides the Subway, and Madeline and I read them together last night.
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