Filling Up My Cup

by Cate on October 25, 2010


By the time Friday came last week, I was spent.  Completely and utterly spent.  It had been a hard week, and I can’t even put my finger on why.  There was no one catastrophic event.  It was just a pile-up of lots of little life moments that just snowballed, and by the end of the week, I was done.  It was a hard Mom week, and an even harder single Mom week.  I was ready for the weekend.

Coincidentally, I had planned a full girls’ day for Saturday some weeks ago, and it couldn’t have come at a better time.  Someone, somewhere knew that a little “me” time was in order and thank goodness the planets aligned to make it possible.  A mani/pedi appointment, retail shopping (with nary a dime spent, believe it or not!), dinner and a chick flick.  Laughter and utter silliness.  Feasting.  Fun.

Total and utter rejuvenation.

The days are full.  The weekends, even fuller.  They’re always crammed with a ridiculous amount of things to do.  Whether it’s errands, productive things around the house that need to get done, fun stuff, or a combination of all three, there’s never enough time.  I try and keep every other weekend low key so we (both me AND the kids) can have time to recharge.  Boost our batteries back up.  Scheduled downtime.  We all need it.  Quite frankly, it’s makes me a better Mom, and I want the kids to be just as happy being still (both mind and body) as they are being busy.  The best of all worlds, you know?

As much as my responsibility cup overfloweth, I know how important it is to take care of me too.  By doing so, I am more present than ever for my kids.  More patient.  More responsive.  Just plain better.  Whether it’s a one hour class at the gym, planned girl time with friends, or even 15 minutes of quiet reading when the kids are fast asleep, things like that need to make it on the regular calendar just as much as homework time, dentist appointments and oil changes. Whether you’re a Mom or not, replenishment from the inside out is important to be a better you.

Today’s replenishment went to Nick, and took the form of a stop at the grocery store for saltines, soup and ginger ale for my oldest little who had a terrible stomachache.  He totally needed TLC, and it must’ve worked miracles, because in no less than thirty minutes, we went from tears to “can I go outside and play on the trampoline?”  Seriously.  BOYS!  No matter the age, they are just confounding sometimes, aren’t they?

What did YOU take time to do for yourself today?

Project 365
October 25, 2010, Photo #187, 188, 189 and 190

The Whole Shebang

Best Way to Wake Up in the AM

More Fall Beauty

Fall at its Best

I love where we live.  We have lived in this neighborhood for nearly nine years now and it would take a lot to get me to leave.  So much so that when The Ex and I bought our second house in this neighborhood, it was only up the street from our old house, and when the kids and I moved in the Summer of ’09, it was back to the old house we moved from (confusing I know, but consider it one giant neighborhood circle in a three year span).  One of my most favorite things in this neighborhood is this little piece of magic that I see every day.  Kris knows exactly the spot I mean.  I love seeing it when I leave in the morning for work, and when I round the corner on my way home, it’s like one giant exhale.  Heaven.  It doesn’t even matter what season it is … whether it’s the glorious brush strokes of Fall colors, the icy pond Winter brings or even when the lake’s waters are furious in the midst of a terrible rainstorm, it’s just this little piece of magic.  Talk about replenishment.

Be Sociable, Share!

{ 7 comments… read them below or add one }

Kelly October 25, 2010 at 8:17 pm

A great reminder of how important it is to take care of oneself in order to better take care of others.

I had lunch at a neighborhood coffee shop with a dear neighbor that I don’t get to see often enough, though we live mere feet from one another. It was great to enjoy a rare moment without one of our children calling out “mom” every 3.5 minutes.

Also, my sweet ham on pretzel bread sandwich was to die for!



Casey October 25, 2010 at 8:37 pm

Nothing for me today b/c I got 1.5 hours of sleep last night and I’m barely hanging on right now. Husband is out of town on his final interview. But, I’m treating myself to a Unisom tonight so I can crash at 8:00 after the kids!


patsy October 25, 2010 at 9:39 pm

That view is incredible!

We all need time to recharge… I know what you mean completely. If we don’t take care of ourselves we can’t take care of anyone else.


Mellisa W. October 25, 2010 at 10:56 pm

I took my 10 year old son to Incredible Pizza after his Dr appointment and let him do it all. It was a great day.


Kris #40 October 26, 2010 at 5:55 am

Exactly! I love the last photo! The colors are amazing!

I had lunch at Mara’s the other day with my best friend who moved to Toms River last summer, she was up to come to the bank. It was a great pick me up and a great way to end a 2 hr photo taking walk through Estling Lake.


Joanne October 26, 2010 at 6:17 am

I think it is so important to take downtime and me time, whether you are a mom or a full time med student whose professors think it’s okay that she study 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. With no day off. Hah. I would go crazy if I did that just as i’m sure I would go crazy if I were on mom duty constantly.


Ramona October 26, 2010 at 9:23 am

Glad you found some ME time.

Hope Nick is feeling better.


Leave a Comment

CommentLuv badge

Previous post:

Next post: